Well, I cannot tell you how critically important our study in the book of
Genesis is. It seems as though the whole literate world of elite scholars is
preoccupied in modern times with this matter of origins; trying to sort out how
we got to where we are and why people behave the way they behave. And without an
understanding of the early chapters of the book of Genesis, their quest is
really hopeless and ill-fated.
We have the privilege of opening the word of God and digging in, and having a
true and accurate understanding of origins; the origin of the physical world, as
well as the origin of the spiritual world and the moral world. All of those
elements are unfolded to us in the book of Genesis, the early chapters.
We're in Chapter 3 of Genesis, and looking at the origin and impact of sin.
Why there is evil in the world, why there is trouble in the world, is all
explained right here. And in our ongoing study of this third chapter, we come
now to Verse 16. And in Genesis 3:16, we find the divine curse on the woman. And
I want to read it to you. It says:
"To the woman He," being God, "...said, I will greatly multiply your
pain..."
And the Hebrew text says: "...and childbirth. In pain you shall bring forth
children. Yet your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over
you."
I've lived long enough and I've been enough places in the world to know that
the plight of women in the world is very difficult. We have it the best here in
America. And still, the plight of women is very difficult. I have seen the
struggles that women go through in all corners of the world.
It's very hard
being a woman. And throughout human history, it has been very hard. And in many
places of the world today, it's very little different than it has been since
ancient times.
In general, women are the slaves of men; men who, in general, have little
interest in their personal needs, very little interest in their feelings, their
emotions, their sufferings. In general, men have throughout human history used
women for sexual fulfillment, for domestic duties, to tend to the children. All
over the world, women have been subjugated and humiliated. And until modern
times, men actually held the power of life and death over women, and still do in
some tribal regions.
This harsh treatment of women, which is pretty much the
general pattern of human history, was not the original design of God. Sin
brought it in. And it, therefore, corrupted the original relationship between
man and woman, between woman and her children, and made life very difficult. And while there is
general suffering in the world that everybody goes through because of death, because of disease,
because of disasters, we all have a measure of suffering because of sin. Sin has brought about
death and decay and decline and disintegration. And we all understand that.
We all live with accidents and illnesses and disasters of one kind or another. There are just
those general matters in a fallen world that expose us all to harm and, ultimately, to death. But in
a very specific way, women have a general category of suffering. And primarily, their suffering is
related to two things: It's related to their children and their husbands.
Apart from the general suffering that all of us go through, which I just mentioned, there
is a particular area of suffering that belongs only to women. And that is the
perennial bearing and caring of children, the perennial dealing with husbands. It is a
hard, and has been a hard and relentless and awful often sorrowful duty through most of history
and even today. It isn't that women can't find some measure of joy in their children. They can. It
isn't that they don't find some measure of joy in their husbands. If they are reasonably kind and
thoughtful to them, they can.
But the fact of the matter is it is the unique burden for women to bear, to have to deal with
children, with pregnancy, to have to deal with husbands who do not understand them nor care for
them compassionately and with understanding.
In most societies throughout human history, they have been treated, women have, as second class,
if that. Maybe fifth class would be better. They have in most cultures belonged to men for their
own usage. Whatever the men commanded and whatever the men desired, the men have
dominated them. And they can do that because by sheer force of human strength, they have power
to exercise over women.
They have obviously, of course, impregnated women and, therefore, they have exposed women
constantly to death. Throughout most of human history, childbearing took a woman to the brink
of death. And even so today in third world countries, women go into pregnancy realizing they
could die, to say nothing of losing the child they have carried in their womb for nine months.
Mortality rates are still high in many places. And through human history, more babies have
perished in birth than have lived.
There are -- been great difficulties and dangers that are associated with being a woman, to say
nothing of carrying around a child for nine months in your womb, and then having to release that
child into the world, with all of its hostilities and all of its threats and all of its dangers, whether
they be physical dangers or whether they be moral dangers, the child now finding its
independence. And because the child by nature is a sinner, wicked, that child is going to
find everything destructive to entertain itself and, therefore, a mother has a heart that never
rests.
She worries not only about what may harm the child physically, but what may destroy the child's
soul. There are not only accidents and plagues and injuries that can worry the mother. There is
that rebellion that will break her heart. There is that child that moves away into a kind of life that
grieves a mother. And the more children she has, the worse it is. And throughout most of human
history, she had as many children as she conceived and were actually born.
There was no contraception such as in modern time. And so women were sentenced to submit to
their husbands at their sexual whims, and then to bear the children that were born, and then to
spend their whole lives carrying, bearing, nursing, nurturing, and then carrying the load of love
that watched those children fall into danger after danger and even break their own mothers'
hearts.
What we see in third world countries today in some areas of the world is what most of the world
has endured through all of its history. I have been in the mountains of the Andes, a little village of
Colta, where they're still killing animals with their bare hands and trying to raise children.
I have been in the most poverty-stricken slums of the City of Calcutta. And I've seen mothers
sitting with malnourished babies in their arms, scooping water out of a sewer; literally, a sewer
running down the street just off the edge of the curb. And there is the water they drink, and there
is the sewer in the same place.
I have seen in places in Africa, malnourished babies. And you've seen them in pictures, if not in
person. I mean we know about that. We understand that. Seen the tribal people, some of them of
South Africa, living in their shanty towns. I've seen in Captions, a town of at least a million
people, built out of rubbish at the end of the runway, the
Cape Town airport, as people try to eke out an existence.
And it seems the worst of it is borne by the mothers, who are either fearing pregnancy, pregnant,
giving birth, nursing babies or trying to control their children running wild in the streets and being
threatened by every kind of danger.
It's hard for women. Throughout history, they have had the children they wanted, and probably
the children they knew they couldn't care for. They've been unable to care for them. They've been
broken-hearted by them. And if they're still young enough, they know there are more children to
come as they submit to the desires of their own husbands.
So women, year after year after year, are faced with this kind of life. Steve Lonetti was telling me
in the years that they worked with the Taliabou people over in Indonesia, tribal people, that
women literally had children by the dozen. They were completely worn out physically, emotionally
and mentally at a relatively young age, just trying to sustain all these pregnancies and to care for
and nurture and nurse and tend to all these children and all the issues of their lives.
We all have seen, whether on television or in a magazine or somewhere, photographs of the
terrible, terrible droughts and consequent famines that occur so often in the land of Africa. And
we see these mothers, and they're holding little babies. The bones are exposed; you know that
well. And the flies are landing on their face and going up their nose and in their ears. And while
they're holding the one that's dying, there are two or three sitting around them that are on the
brink of death. And those mothers, themselves malnourished, know that it could well be the
reality that they'll be pregnant again, and very soon.
Childbirth throughout human history is dangerous. Many, most children died and mothers then
lived with suffering and sorrow; their own fear of death and the fear of the death of their children.
Admittedly, modern science in more recent years has developed through
the Christian-influenced west, which is where modern science has come from and
modern medicine. It's
really a product of the Reformation. But modern science has developed medicines and medical
care and contraception and education, and in some ways, at least in the western world, mitigated
the physical trauma of childbirth and the relentlessness of it, and given woman a measure of
comfort, but hasn't all together removed the problem, because women still die. Babies are still
born deformed or born ill or born dead.
And then there's still that worry; there's still that fear. You don't have to fear that your baby might
be eaten by a lion, but you do have to fear that your baby might be run over by a car. You don't
have to fear that your baby's life might be taken by the member of another tribe, but you do have
to fear that your baby might become a child influenced by wicked influences in the lives of other
young people, who would then turn your child into some kind of criminal, and shatter a mother's
heart. So, in general, women have had a hard life.
I was talking to the Rabbi this week. And I said to him, you know, I'm going to be preaching on
Genesis 3, and I would just want to know what is your view of the curse on women. Do you
believe that when God cursed women, it was only the pain that she would experience at the
moment of birth, just the pain of childbirth? And he said oh, no, the Rabbis don't believe that. The
Rabbis believe this: And he went on to tell me a very interesting perspective.
He said the Rabbis have always taught that a mother's highest joy is to carry her baby, because the
baby is totally protected. It is sheer joy. She worries about no evil influences on her baby because
her baby has no evil influences. She worries about no diseases and no illnesses. She worries about
no accidents. That baby is in her womb in the safest place in the universe. And while she's carrying
that baby and feeling that life in her womb, there is a kind of joy and a kind of fulfillment
and a kind of exhilaration. So that the Rabbis, he said, have always believed that the woman
is at her pinnacle of joy when she is pregnant.
And then comes the birth. And then, he said, comes the sorrow after birth, the postpartum blues,
they call it, I guess. And the Rabbis say that the woman is sad because her baby is not there
anymore, and there's a level of intimacy that is gone. But more than that, there's a level of
protection that is gone. And now there's a new reason to fear illness and viruses and germs and all
kinds of things. And as the child gets older, the disconnect is more profound, because the child is
exposed to greater and greater dangers physically and mentally and emotionally and spiritually.
And the mother's heart grows in its fears.
Well, the Rabbis have something, I think. As I said, the suffering in our society is softened
somewhat in the advanced world. But still, women have pain and sorrow in that category
that is unique to them. They bond with their children in a way that men don't
know. And life, frankly, is not paradise for women. It has its joys, admittedly. But there is
in the life of a woman a level of personal sorrow that is unique to her.
Now, the question is: Why is it so? Was this God's original intention? Was God originally
designing that women would just have babies and babies and babies and babies every year of their
life? And that those babies would bring upon the women sorrow in the physical pain, sorrow in
the brink of death at the time of birth, and then sorrow in watching that little life struggle, try to
find life and then, once it has received that life on its own, struggle against all the threats against
that life and all the issues that can grieve and break a mother's heart? Was that God's original
design? No. No, it wasn't. That's all part of the curse. That's what Verse 16 is saying. That's part
of the curse; that's not part of the original design. "To the woman He said, 'I will
greatly multiply your pain in childbirth. In pain you shall bring forth
children.'"
Originally, it wasn't that way. Originally, having children was a paradise. It was a paradise. This is
a -- this is a curse. This is a part of the curse. And on top of that: "Your desire shall be for
your husband, and he shall rule over you." So here the curse is in two categories; her
relationship to her children and her relationship to her husband.
Let me tell you, folks: That defines a woman's sphere, doesn't it? It's right there, where she lives,
where she feels the sentence of God.
Well, it's true with a man, too. We'll see that later on. The ground was cursed. That's where he
lives. He's out there working the ground to make bread to feed his family, and it's not easy. That's
where his pain comes from. He wishes he could stay in the comfort of his home and it would all
be well, but he can't. He's got to go out by the sweat, toil, against a cursed earth,
make bread for his family.
And a woman, too, is cursed in the sphere of her work, the sphere of her life; the relationship with
children and her husband. And to you women I say this: If you are somewhat surprised that you
have trouble with your children and that you suffer pain in that area, both physical pain and
emotional and sometimes deep, deep spiritual pain, and if you struggle with your husband, um,
just know this. God didn't intend it that way in the beginning. That's a result of sin, and you're
bearing something of the effect of the curse that God put on Eve. And you say well, then I, you
know, if I'd have been in the garden, I wouldn't have done with what Eve did, so why should I
have to pay? The answer is because God wants to remind you all the time how terrible sin is, and
what it's done.
So this judgment falls into two areas that essentially are a woman's life, her children, and her
husband. And as I said, even in the advanced world where physical sorrow itself has been
mitigated to some degree, even the pain of childbearing is mitigated by drugs and something that
can alleviate the pain, still, dealing with children is difficult. And that's where a woman finds her
greatest difficulty, because that's where her heart rests.
And secondly, it's difficult dealing with husbands. You know, it may be difficult dealing with your
husband when you're living in a third world country or when, in ancient times, you were in some
tribal environment. But from the looks of things today, it probably isn't any easier to deal with a
husband living in the fast pace of the 20th century high-tech world, who may be equally or even
more insensitive to your needs, if he's at home at all to find out what they are.
So here's a mother, continuing giving birth to little sinners, and married to a big one.
Now this is the sphere. And Genesis 3:16 explains succinctly about this; though death will
come to Adam and Eve, death will come because of sin. Way back in Chapter 2, Verse:
16 "God commanded the man, saying, 'From any tree in the garden you may eat freely; but
from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in that day you shall eat
from it you shall surely die." Death did come. Death wasn't the sentence of God on man and
woman. Death was the result of their disobedience. The sentence of God, judicial sentence of God
is given us here. For the woman, it was serious pain in relationships with children and her
husband. For the man, it was serious pain in carving out his work in the world, which was his
defined category of life.
So death was going to come. But even though death was going to come, they would still fulfill the
original mandate. And what was the original mandate? Back to Chapter 1 Verse 27: "God
created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He
created them. And God blessed them; and God said to them, 'Be fruitful and...'" What?
"Multiply." Have babies. Fill the earth. That was the original intent.
God created them in the garden originally in perfection and in sinlessness, and they had eternal
life. They would never grow old; they would never age; they would never be ill; they would never
be harmed; they would never die. This was an eternal existence at that point in the garden. And
God said to them you will be "fruitful and multiply." You'll have babies in this
environment. They would have had babies, and the babies would have grown, but they never
would have declined. We have babies and they grow and then they decline, and they all go
through the same cycle. But in a perfect world, they would have had babies that grew, just like
Jesus grew, right, in wisdom and stature, in favor with God and man, in wonderful
perfection, but never decline. Just grew to full maturity, to become like a mature Adam or a
mature Eve. They were -- they were going to populate the earth then, too. And even though they
would die, they would still do that. That's clear from Verse 16. You're still going to have
conception. That's the word "childbirth," actually. You're still going to have
conception, pregnancies, which produce childbirth. You're still going to procreate. You're still
going to populate the planet. That hasn't changed.
So marriage hasn't changed. One man, one woman, cleaving together for life. Remember, that
was defined in Chapter 2: A man will leave his father and woman will leave her father and mother
as well, they come together and create this one flesh and produce children. So that's going to
continue. They're still going to have babies. But physical death will exist. And that's going to
make the whole thing different. Because along with physical death comes disease and accident and
injury, and harm and sorrow. And it's going to hit the woman naturally in the category where she
has the most invested, in the most intimate of categories, which is her relation to her children and
her relation to her husband. The race will survive, and it will procreate. But they will all die and be
replaced. So sorrow will mark it for the woman and the man.
Now, the two categories that define the life of women then are those two categories. That is why
Paul, writing to Titus in Titus 2:4 says you "older women," teach the younger women
"to love their husbands and to love their children." That's what God wants out of the
woman. Forget the briefcase, forget the road show, forget the career. Love your husband. Love
your children. Stay in that category where the curse has fallen and, by the power of God and the
work of the Spirit, you can transform it into something of paradise regained. And I'm
going to say more about that, I think, if I have time, either tonight or next time.
I mean, frankly, the history of the world knows absolutely nothing about the modern,
romanticized approach to marriage. The world doesn't know anything about the movie love-song
notion that is so short-lived and elusive today. The world knows that when a woman marries a
man, there are times of great fulfillment and joy. But it's also very, very difficult. And a woman's
greatest troubles are going to come because she married a man. She now has a sinner for a
husband, and she's producing sinners. And that surrounds her already sinful life, with more sinful
things to be concerned about and coped with.
Let's look at the text. "To the woman, He said" -- special word of divine judgment;
not natural consequences, but judicial sentencing. "To the woman, He said" -- This is
specific. And divine justice is very apparent in the sentence because the punishment -- listen --
stands in direct relation to the sin of the woman. It's a penalty consistent with her iniquity. See, in
this way divine wisdom displays itself. The punishment is calculated -- listen -- to keep awake in
woman a direct remembrance of her sin in the garden. Every woman experiencing these areas of
difficulty has a constant reminder of the sin of Eve.
God spoke to the woman with His sentence on her to serve as a constant reminder of her sin. And
it's a reminder to all women of the horror of sin in the beginning. Women, through all history,
have very personal, very measurable reminders of the iniquity of Eden. And by this sentence, a
woman's original condition is transformed. You say: What are you saying? I'm saying this:
She sinned in the pursuit of personal enjoyment. It looked good; good to the eyes; it was good for
food. And it would be something she would delight in because what it would do would be to
satisfy a longing that had arisen in her. She wanted personal enjoyment. She wanted a joy that she
thought was being withheld from her. So she sinned in the pursuit of personal enjoyment. She
sinned in the pursuit of personal fulfillment. She sinned in the pursuit of personal satisfaction. And
now, in seeking personal fulfillment, personal satisfaction, personal joy with a man, she will find
the categories of her greatest misery.
Let me say it another way, just to sum it up. The curse on the woman falls into two areas; two
areas that define a woman's life and role in the world; two areas from which women, in general,
can't escape. The curse is not housework. It's not laundry. It's not balancing the checkbook. It's
not cooking, which is largely passing away in our culture anyway. The curse is the sorrows
related to the very place where a woman seeks her highest joy, in her husband and her children. It
is into those areas that God speaks his judgment, first in relation to her children.
"To the woman He said, 'I will greatly multiply your pain and childbirth." If you have
an NAS
[New American Standard Bible], look in the margin. "And," it says, "your
pregnancies or conception." "'I will greatly multiply your pain'" and
pregnancies. "'In pain you shall bring forth children.'" When He says, "I will
greatly multiply your pain," it's an interesting Hebraic phrase. The construction literally says
this: Causing to be great, I shall cause to be great your sorrow. It's redundant. It's -- He says it
twice. I will cause to be great; I will cause to be great your sorrow.
The idea is intensification. I am going to bring upon you a great sorrow. And that sorrow is going
to come in the area of your children. Now, listen very carefully to what I say, because some
people find an ethical problem in this. They say well, now, wait a minute, huh, God certainly
couldn't curse the woman by exposing her to greater sinfulness or the greater effects of sin. Well,
He did. That's what He did. Listen carefully to how I say this: It is consistent with God to make
trouble a consequence for sin. It's consistent all through scripture. God isn't making someone sin.
God is not the author of sin. God is not the source of sin. But it is consistent with God to allow
trouble as a consequence for sin. You see that all over the scripture. I mean just go back to
Deuteronomy, where God says originally to Israel: Obey me and I'll bless you; disobey me and I'll
-- what? I'll curse you. You obey me, you'll be blessed. You disobey me and you're going to
have big trouble. It isn't that God authors the disasters. It's that God doesn't prevent them. It's
classic Romans 1. "When they knew God, they glorified Him not as God." So, what
happened? God gave them over. What did He give them over to? Lusts, burning toward one
another. Then he gave them over to homosexuality in Romans 1: "Men with men"
doing that which is unnatural; women doing the same. And then he gave them over to a
"reprobate mind," in the 28th Verse of Romans 1. And out of that reprobate mind
there's a list of wickedness that goes all the way down to Verse 32.
Literally, God turns them over to sin, trouble. It is not inconsistent with God to make trouble a
consequence for sin. And trouble is inherently linked to sin. So don't be surprised if the result of
the curse is trouble generated by the impact of sin. That is consistent with what God has always
done. In fact, if you're a believer and you disobey the Lord, God says he will chasten you. And all
the negatives that would be defined as chastening -- loss of blessing, maybe an illness, some
trauma in your life -- all the negatives that come to you under divine chastening are really the
withholding of blessing that exposes you to the effect of sin. God just doesn't protect you.
And even beyond that, you can read 1st Corinthians 5. And God Himself, the Lord Himself,
said, turn that sinning so-called brother over to whom? "Satan." And he'll learn not to
blaspheme. God uses the effects of sin to chasten believers. God used calamity, which is an effect
of sin, to chasten Israel. All the categories of negatives that God promises those who are
disobedient are connected to sin. Any temporal judgment which inflicts punishment is inherently
linked to the effects of sin.
So God is not at all out of line or inconsistent when he says to the woman: You are going to be
exposed to the impact of sin in a greater way because of what you've done. And so are all
women. The woman is exposed to sin's calamitous impact, most intimately, where she lives her
life, with her children and her husband.
Now, He says -- and I want to be careful with the words here because this is so succinct and has
so much in it. "I will greatly multiply." Listen carefully to what I say, and remember
that I just told you the literal translation of that is "causing to be great, I shall cause to be
great" your sorrow. When it's translated "greatly multiply," it sounds like she
already had pain; she already had sorrow. But you know better than that, right? Because before
she fell, was there any pain? No. Was there any sorrow? No. It doesn't imply that there was
already pain. It doesn't imply that there was already sorrow. Before the fall, there wasn't any pain
and there wasn't any sorrow. That's why that Hebrew explanation "causing to be great, I
will cause to be great" your pain.
He is simply saying I will give you a great multiplied experience of pain, the likes of which you
have never had. God is going to give to the woman multiplied pain, multiplied pain, connected
with multiplied conceptions, multiplied pregnancies. By the way, the word "pain,"
your pain, "itstsabown." Literally, the same word as in Verse 17. It's translated
"toil" there in the NAS. It is a word that means pain and sorrow. It is a word
that encompasses the experience and the emotion. In fact, one lexicon translated it this way.
"Itstsabown" means everything that is hard to bear; everything that is hard to bear. I
am going to bring on you everything that is hard to bear -- I like that -- in conceptions; everything
that is hard about having children. Can include the pain of the actual birth, but it's beyond that. It's
all the suffering that goes with having children. And "I will greatly multiply," or
"causing to be great, I will cause to be great your pain and your conception," the
Hebrew says, "and your conception."
Listen to this: I am not only going to give you great pain, multiplied pain, but I am going to give
you multiplied conception. That's a very important statement. I would venture to say you probably
have never thought about that statement. But here's what He is saying. I am going to give you
multiplied pain connected with multiplied conception. Her fertility was increased. That's part of
the curse. Her fertility was increased. So that a woman can conceive a child every month. And
when she conceives a child, based upon her nursing pattern, she could essentially have a baby
every year. She could be pregnant, pregnant, pregnant, have a baby, nurse the baby. As soon as
the baby is weaned after a few months, she's capable of getting pregnant again and pregnant again
and pregnant again and pregnant again.
And I believe that before the fall, it wasn't like that. You say: What was it like before
the fall? I don't know. It doesn't say that. Maybe she could only have one baby every 30 years.
Well, what would be the difference? She's eternal, right? And think of this: If they were eternal
and never died and they were supposed to fill the earth, the earth is the same size now as it was,
isn't it? It's the same size. And if everybody lived forever, they'd have to go very slow at having
babies, or the planet would overflow. Because nobody died. Just take Adam and Eve. They lived
to over 900 years. They could have filled the earth just with their children, grandchildren, great
grandchildren. It's exponential. Live 900 years and have babies for 900 years, and multiply all the
other people that are born out of your family that are having babies, and they're also living that
long, and you've got the population of the world. In fact, by the time you get to Genesis 6, the
whole world is densely populated with people, and God drowns them in the flood. That
wouldn't have taken long. But if they were eternal, they couldn't go at that rate. Plus, nobody
died. So He never replaced anybody.
So what happened when God cursed the woman was multiplied fertility, so that she would
conceive more children than before the fall. Which meant that God originally designed childbirth
to be an experience much less frequent. There were other wonders to enjoy in His world. Since
the fall, however, women can conceive essentially every month, and they can produce a child or
multiple birth children every year. And in most parts of the world throughout human history, they
just kept having babies and having babies, mostly at the whim of the husband, and just kept having
them. And that was life. And whether they could feed them or not, or whether they were ill or
not, the woman's life was totally consumed with the children, and all of the rigors of
childbirth and all of the fears and all of the illnesses and all. And guess who was home feeding the
children all the time? And guess who's home nursing the sick ones? And guess whose heart is
being torn out when they rebel, and when they wander away, and when they're injured, and when
they're ill? And this is her life, and this is not easy.
You see, remember, in the original creation, they were told to "be fruitful and multiply and
fill the earth." And there would have been a different pace, a part of paradise. But after the
fall, everything sped up. And a woman's life becomes totally dominated by children. And
everything's much more rapid, and the earth gets filled fast. And then there's a drowning. And
then it starts over. And here we are, and we're filling the earth in just a few thousand years. That's
okay, because it's a disposable planet. It's going to be destroyed in a few thousand
years anyway after its creation, isn't it? And all the people who were born will die anyway, leaving
vacancies for their replacements. And so women just keep filling up the earth; speed up the
population.
Why? Just to constantly show the effect of sin by filling the life of women with the sorrows that
go along with conception and childbirth. That is not to say -- listen -- that is not to say there aren't
any joys. They are just all mitigated to some extent for the women of the world. Just to be sure
we don't miss anything, again, it repeats it. "In pain you shall bring forth children."
This is a different word from the word "pain" earlier in the verse, but it's from the
same root. It's just a way of emphasizing it by using a synonym. Conception, pregnancy,
childbirth, no longer the way God originally designed them in the perfect paradise.
Conception will be multiplied, much more frequent. Birth will be painful. Children will consume a
woman's life. And whatever joy she gains from them will be mingled with fears and pain and
suffering and sorrow.
Even Simeon said to Mary: Some day, because of how you loved this baby Jesus, a "sword
will pierce" your heart. So a woman is punished in the most intimate way. Nothing is more
purely the distinctive of a woman than to give birth to a baby. Nothing provides for her greater
fulfillment, greater joy, greater satisfaction, than that. But even that is not unmixed. It is with
pain; pains which will come to her, will threaten her life. She will go down to the very gate of
death before her children come into the world. And throughout the remainder of her life, she will
be reminded by disappointments and failures, sorrows, that she will find her deepest pain in the
lives of her children.
Now, a footnote. Some have suggested, rather foolishly, that it is therefore a sin for women to
have any kind of pain alleviation in childbirth. I just need to say this so none of you men say: Just
bear the curse, baby, just bear the curse. Look. That's not the point. There is a measure of pain in
childbirth. But it is not so frightening at all, it is not so threatening at all, that it causes a woman
not to wish to have a child. It is but for a moment. That's not the point. It's not just the physical
pain of childbirth -- I think you understand that now -- that is in view here. And certainly, there
are some women who even escape that, right? There are some women who are barren and can't
have children, and there are women who are single and would never have children. And it
doesn't mean that they escape the curse because, in general, we all feel the effects of sin.
We all age. We all are exposed to harm and danger and disease and death, and all of that. So
it isn't necessary to take all of the elements of the curse, all the time, and impose them on all the
women, just so everybody knows full, maxed-out personal experience of this curse. There are, as
I said, some single women. There are childless women. And certainly, there are women who can
reasonably have their pain alleviated. But still, the pain is there physically. We know that. That's
why the drugs are necessary. And that is testimony to the fact of Eve's sin, along with all the other
attendant pains that we've talked about in the matter of children. And by the way, the scripture is
very supportive of the work of physicians. Jesus identified Himself as the great what?
Physician. It must be a honorable profession. You can think of a few professions that He
never said I am the great ...fill-in-the-blank. And I know which one of you're thinking of
immediately. He honored the physician. Luke was a physician who traveled with the apostle
Paul.
Nothing wrong with alleviating pain in childbirth anymore than...you say all
right, according to the curse on men, cursed is the ground. "In toil you shall eat of it all the
days of your life." Don't you dare buy that tractor; you are mitigating the curse. What are
you doing with a lawnmower? Get that lawnmower out of there. Get down on all fours and chew
that grass down. I mean, come on. But even with some alleviation of the pain of childbirth, when
and where possible in modern times, it is still not possible to end the woman's sorrow associated
with her children.
So I'm back to where I started. Being a woman is hard. It's very hard. For many, most
in human history, it's by far the hardest of all things. Now, that takes me to where I want to be to
close.
Listen very carefully. What can a woman do to alleviate the sorrows of this curse? Not take an
anesthetic at the time of childbirth; that's not it. What can a woman really do to alleviate the
sorrows of the curse?
Turn to 1st Timothy Chapter 2, 1st Timothy Chapter 2. In 1st Timothy Chapter 2, I want you to
drop down to Verse 13. Now, Paul is writing to Timothy and he's giving him instruction for the
church, and he talks about how women are to dress in the church in Verse 9, and how they are to
be engaged in good works and godliness in Verse 10, and how they are to be receiving instruction
and not teaching the men in verses 11 and 12. Then he says in Verse 13: "For it was Adam
who was first created, then Eve." So in the original creation, women were the helpers
of men. They are equal spiritually. They are equal before God, and certainly they are equal in
Christ. In Christ, "there is neither male nor female." Galatians 3:28. But in the order
of creation in the family, Adam was first. Eve came, created to be his helper. And so as a helper
she is not the head. She comes to help him. And she must adorn herself in a way that brings honor
to him and attention to him, and not honor and attention to herself. She is to be quiet in receiving
instruction; not to usurp authority over a man. That's the divine order.
So the first part of the chapter associates itself with creation; her place under her head, her
husband. Then starting in Verse 14 it turns, and he says: "It was not Adam who was
deceived, but the woman being" quite "deceived, fell into
transgression." Now he turns away from the original paradise, the original creation in
which woman was created to find her place under man, to be his helper and to support him, and to
be the half that he needed to fully complement his life.
Now he turns in Verse 14 to the fall. And he says it was the woman who was deceived. It was the
woman who stepped out of her God-ordained role. It was the woman who, rather than coming
under the protection of her husband and seeking her husband's counsel, came out and acted
independently, and allowed herself to be exposed to the temptation, and was deceived. And
because she was deceived, she fell into the transgression. And then she led her husband into the
same transgression, and plunged the whole race into sin, and brought upon her own head the
curse. And what again was the curse, the first part of the curse? The first part of the curse was she
would know her deepest, profoundest and relentless pain through relationships with her children;
through the physical, emotional, spiritual relationships with children. That's where she would feel
her deepest pain. And it has been true throughout all of history.
"But," Verse 15, "but women shall be preserved through the bearing of children
if they continue in faith and love and sanctity with self-restraint." Boy, this is a great
statement. What a great hope! Women have been given a hard road. But it can be softened. It can
be changed; it can be changed. It can be altered. Women are not necessarily under God's
permanent shadow of displeasure. And this passage shows that God has opened a way of light.
God has given a blessed promise to children. In contrast, she "fell into transgression."
But immediately, it says she shall be "preserved" from the impact of that transgression
"through the bearing of children." Instead of the bearing of children being the point of
her curse, it becomes the point of her deliverance.
In Eve, women fell in the act of stepping over the boundary that God had set. And women now
find their deliverance at the very point at which they have the curse. What does this mean? It isn't
soul salvation here. You don't get saved by having babies. That's not what it's saying. But a
woman is delivered from the impact of that curse; the impact of that pain, suffering and sorrow of
having these sinners all around you all the time. And not only do you have to deal with your own
sin and the big sinner, your husband, all these little sinners tearing at your heart, and bringing you
all the grief and sadness and sorrow.
I see it on the television every time I see some mother in the inner city standing on a sidewalk
crying her eyes out because her children were killed in some kind of a drug thing or some kind of
a drive-by gang shooting, and you just know the mother's heart is cut out of her. And these
women, who have more and more and more children, just have more and more and more of that
pain. How can a woman ever be relieved of that? She can be saved through childbearing.
She can actually be saved, delivered from this curse, delivered from this pain, delivered from this
sorrow at the very point of childbearing, the very point of the curse. The pain of childbearing is
the punishment for the sin. But in that very childbearing, she can find deliverance from that pain.
How does she do that? Here it is:
"If they continue in faith and love and sanctity with self-restraint." "They"
means the women. If a woman will live a godly life and "continue in faith and love"
and holiness and self-control, if she will be what Verse 10 says, "A godly woman,"
then, you know what? She'll raise a godly generation. And her children will continue in the same
thing. So if you women have been sitting out there tonight saying, you know, I'm not sure
I identify with what you're saying; I don't have a lot of pain with my children. They're
a sheer joy to me. Do you know why? Because you have been delivered through childbearing.
Because you have continued to live your life in "faith and love and sanctity and
self-control."
You are in the church, which is the context here. You are living a godly life and, therefore, your
children are being raised to love the Savior, and the curse is mitigated, and you are delivered from
its impact. That's the point. That's the point. It's the only way. I look at my children. They are an
incessant joy to me. They are an incessant joy to their mother. I look at my grandchildren. I watch
them being raised in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. And we find in them the greatest
delight. And yet, there are fears there, and there are worries there, about the things that can take
the life of our children and the influences that can corrupt their minds. But there is joy there.
Certainly, Patricia and any Christian mother is delivered from that tremendous weight of the
curse, when she lives a godly life and sees the fruit of that godly life in the faith and the love and
the sanctity and the self-control of her children. All is joy. And then we realize that even if their
life is lost, even if they become ill, we have nothing to fear. Because where are they going?
Going
to heaven. So that in Christ, through salvation, the curse is reversed. And the children become a
heritage from the Lord, a blessing, a gift from God, given back to Him, and the source of our
greatest joy.
Well, so much for the children. Next week, we're getting on you husbands; show how a
woman can survive her man. That'll be good, because it's Father's Day.
Let's pray. Scripture says the entrance of your Word gives light and, indeed, it does, our Father.
We are illuminated. We know now things we didn't know. We understand things we didn't
understand, and our worldview continues to be clarified. We see things the way they are. Thank
you, Lord, for saving women in this church and all over the earth. Thank you for sweet mothers,
for whom all the pain of children is softened and wiped away because their children love Jesus
Christ. And therefore, in the end, all is joy because all is settled forever. And women are delivered
from the stigma of sin and from the curse of it by living godly lives and raising godly children. Oh,
Father, how we pray that women who name the name of Jesus Christ, even as those precious
mothers came tonight to dedicate those little babies, may they do all they need to do in their lives
to live in such a way as to be delivered, rescued, saved from this curse, and to have the kind of
relationship with their children that is a little bit like paradise before it was lost. Thank you again
for your word to us. In Christ's name, Amen.